"Make sure he can get away," Ragnar says, "and encourage him -- give him a moment's peace whenever he wants, accept him, give him space his pride and his skill can grow into. Give him the room to trust his own pleasure. The Sinric I met was self-assured and knew many things; he was utterly unafraid and utterly himself himself both in a tavern full of Vikings, and in bed. He knew what he wanted, and that he could demand it."